A few hours later he summoned us all to the table and said I was gonna have the baby under the following conditions: Mum was going to leave work and care for the baby. I was to go to uni and get a job, my partner would do the same and we would pay Mum $100 per week. My partner would be allowed over during the day, but never at night. If we wanted to live at home we had to agree to these rules. He also said that if all this was going to happen under his roof, then baby would take his last name. We didn’t have too many options, but in the end we chose to agree.